Chapter 11 Review Questions

  1. Has intimacy always had the same meaning it has today?
  2. What did Fisher, Aron, and Brown (2006) find about brain chemistry and romantic love? 
  3. What does it mean to say that intimate relationships must be recreated?
  4. How does Virginia Kidd differentiate vision 1 ideas about intimate relationships from vision 2 and vision 3 ideas? What did couples in each time frame believe one should do in order to have good communication?
  5. What kinds of conditions lead to intimacy? What pattern of development in close relationships have Braiker and Kelley identified? What is intimacy readiness? What are some examples?
  6. Shibles and Zastrow identify three conditions that lead to falling in love. What are they?
  7. What are the major filters identified by Duck in his filtering theory of attraction? What order do they occur in?
  8. What is the matching hypothesis?
  9. What are inclusion, control, and affection needs? What do we label people who have extreme needs (in either direction) for inclusion? for control?
  10. What are the stages in the development of friendships?
  11. How has courtship progressed over the ages? What is calling and what is dating?
  12. What occurs in the initiating stage of romantic coupling? What occurs in the experimenting stage? What are affinity-seeking strategies?
  13. What happens during intensifying? What are secret tests? What four secret tests do couples often use?
  14. What happens in integrating? What are relational symbols and how do they affect integration? What is bonding?
  15. What the dialectics must couples work on as they balance self and relational identities? How do most couples manage these dialectics?
  16. What relational maintenance behaviors are discussed by Guerrero, Andersen, and Afifi (2001)? 
  17. How do couples bias their perceptions of their relationship and one another?
  18. What happens in the differentiating stage of relational dissolution? What happens in the circumscribing stage?
  19. What happens in stagnating? What happens in avoiding?
  20. What happens during terminating?
  21. What does Stafford (2005) say about long-distance relationships? They may not be as problematic as you would be likely to think. 
  22. What is the Palo Alto Group?
  23. What are ways people disconfirm one another?
  24. What is a double bind?
  25. What can be done about URPs?
  26. What are five rules for effective feedback?
  27. What is the gender role dialectic?
  28. What are the different styles of successful coupling described by Gottman? Give characteristics of each.
  29. What is the magic 5:1 ratio?
  30. What are the characteristics of each of the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”?
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